Another day, another episode of Grey’s Anatomy I felt I had to blog about. Today’s inspiration, Link. Aka Dr Atticus Lincoln (Chris Carmack).
Self Care HERO.
He and Dr Amelia Shepherd (Caterina Scorsone) have been getting closer. She’s been calling their encounters “pain relief” and other things which I’m not sure have been helping him feel seen, heard and valued as a human being as opposed to objectified.
Still, he’s seemed pretty laid back about it.
Until the episode I saw today when he has been asked how he manages to be so sunny and cheerful when he had such a rough start in life.
His response is that he figures the worst has happened and that even if he’s wrong, believing that helps him.
Later in the episode, he asks Amelia to be clear with him about whether there might be more to what they’re doing. She challenges him by saying he seemed fine with being “pain relief” and asks if he suddenly needs to know right this minute.
He tells her, “I don’t just expect the best out of life, Amelia. I do what I can to help the best come along. So I’m not inclined to hang around in a situation [I know will end] in pain because I’ve had enough pain. So no, not this minute, but soon.”
And I applauded from the sofa (aka couch) because so often, we KNOW what we’d like to say but we don’t say it.
We might worry that we won’t get the answer we want. That we’ll be seen as being too demanding or too much. That a taste of what we hope for is better than nothing even when it hurts.
When you mentally scan your whole life, can you think of any situation you’re in which is likely to cause you pain if you hang around in it for much longer?
Who do you want to talk to about it?
What do you want from them?
How might you empower yourself to have the challenging conversation?
I adore somatic coaching and yoga therapy because the embodied approach to confidence and boundaries is so much more beneficial than trying to talk ourselves into feeling worthy or even acceptable.
If you’d like to find out more, I look forward to hearing from you.
And you’ll find resources throughout the site to help you be your own self care coach, too – the heart opening yoga poses can be really helpful.
So can grounding and centering.
There are also lots of self care tools in the book, 365 Ways to Feel Better: Self-care Ideas for Embodied Wellbeing.
Whatever situation is causing you pain, you deserve better.
What can YOU do to help the best in life come along?
We all have a right to express our needs and wants. Self care coaching and therapy can help you learn to do this.
Big love,
